I’m a pretty ordinary looking guy and I know people mean the best when they say this to me but it absolutely infuriates me when straight people tell me “Your alright because your not that gay, I just hate those gay guys that are like all in your face about it”. Oh well, I guess your ok then, it’s not really homophobia if you only hate some gay people!
But hey, being a gay man you kinda get used to straight people not really getting it sometimes. What abso-fucking-lutely makes me want to loose my shit is when gay people pull the exact same shit!
All this no femmes, no queens, straight acting only bullshit pisses me off more than anything! If you had any idea how much courage these guys have, to look and dress however they feel most comfortable and not let all of the narrow minded bigots out there get them down, you would commend them. You want to talk about being a real man? That’s being a real man, having the strength to be yourself regardless of what anyone thinks.
I’m so sick of people beating down femmes or guys that are too gay. I have nothing but respect for this type of guy, I actually wish that I had the courage to be more like them.
So always remember, there’s no such thing as too gay, but there is such thing as too bigoted!
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Most people don’t know this about me but I wish I looked gayer. I always get told “you dont look gay”, “I never would have guessed you were gay”, “you look so straight”. I know everyone means it as a compliment. But deep down inside, I wish I looked gay. I have tried so many times to pull off a gayer look. Scarves, vests, extreme haircuts, skinny leg jeans, all just end up making me look like a weird douche bag! I cant pull off the gay look!
It seems to me that in the gay community, “straight acting” or “straight looking” is something that alot of gay men aspire to be. So here are my top reasons why it’s not all it’s cracked up to be.
Sometimes I just wish that the way I looked on the outside said something about the type of person I am. At the moment the way I look is a misrepresentation of who I am.
If I looked gay then people would know I was gay from the minute I met them. When you look straight, people just assume you are straight which then creates this awkward moment where you have to correct them and pretty much come out to them.
My top reason for wanting to look gayer… Being easily identifiable to other gay guys! The other day, this cute gay guy sat next to me on the train and I couldn’t help but think that maybe if I looked gay too he would maybe start up a conversation with me. The ability to be able to be spotted by other gay guys and get picked up or hit on would be awesome!
The grass is always greener on the other side I guess. What do you think? Let me know in the comments below.