Hi Guys, First of all I have to say sorry for missing a blog. It was my birthday last week and I got caught up in all the festivities and couldnt find time to blog. I was going to do the follow up blog to Face Off 2, but once again something far more important has come up so I’ll get to that in the next blog.
If you haven’t already heard it, make sure you check out Hillary Clintons speech on LGBT rights are human rights. This speech blew me away. Absolutely amazing and I finally feel like someone said exactly what needed to be said.
One of the points she brought up was that the world is worse off for not treating gay people equally. At first I was a bit taken a back. I know that we are worse off for not getting treated the same but how is the world worse off for not treating us the same? She followed it up with “all the LGBT people out there with brilliant ideas or amazing contributions that aren’t contributing because they feel supressed”. Imagine all the amazing things that women have done that wouldn’t be done if they were never given rights? Imagine all the things that black people have done that would have never happened if they were never given rights. This got me thinking. I am a giant Oprah fan, and even if your not a fan of her you have to admit that she has made a massive contribution to the world. Now imagine that either women or black people were never given rights and therefore the oprah show never existed so therefore the thousands of good deeds she has done never came to fruition. The world indeed would be worse off for not having made that decision. The world is worse off for not making the same decision now with gay people. Its Time. Watch the video, share with your friends. Let me know what you think of the speech in the comments below.
Last night I spent some time with my Dad, far from my usual saturday night. I dont see him alot or spend alot of time with him. You could say our relationship is at best, strained. We are two completely opposite people with opposite beliefs and views on life and are both very passionate about our opinions which makes for some very firey moments. I guess this is the kind of relationship alot of people have with their parents so Im sure alot of you understand. A few months ago we had a massive argument and alot of things were said that had been brewing for years, so now with the air cleared Im trying to build a better relationship with him. So we started talking and he asked (with genuine interest, which was kind of shocking) about the whole gay thing. For us this a topic we usually skirt around or try to avoid. But he asked so I spilled my guts. We ended up getting on to the topic of kids and I told him even though I was gay I still wanted kids one day and he was like “How would that even work?”. To be honest Im not even sure of how that would work. I am aware that some gay guys do have kids and there are different options available but we both agreed that alot of the options seemed pretty messy. Shared custody, adoption or whatever it would never be the wife, kids and white picket fence family. Not that the white picket fence family is the only good option (Im sure most of us didnt grow up like that) but if I wanted kids it was going to be far more complicated than it would be for your average straight person. There was an awkward silence and then I just blurted out “If you dont have kids, What do you do with your life?”. I never realised how much I had fallen for societies expectation to grow up, get a job, get married, have kids. I had never even considered another option, even though there has quite clearly been a large spanner in the works for that plan for a long time now. I obviously have a lack of single childless role models. So Im left wondering, If you dont have kids and make a family… What do you do with your life? Travel? Become career obsessed? Become a Crazy Cat Lady?
What would you do if you were told you couldn’t have children? How would you spend your life? What would you do instead? Let me know on my facebook page by clicking the link above.