I went on grindr again last night despite my attempts to avoid it. I changed my little bio on there to read “I have plenty of friends and dont do hook ups so Im on here looking for 1 thing only” A guy messaged me and the conversation went as follows. (Im in bold)
Ur here for a boyfriend????
Yeah, Crazy right?
Its good to beleive in miracles
Why do you want one?
It would be nice to have someone to share my life with
Cant you share with your friends?
Yes, and I do, but its not the same. Besides I dont want to be like 30 and fucking random guys off the internet. There’s nothing wrong with that if thats your lifestyle choice but I know it is definately not for me.
Good Luck with that 🙂
It made me so angry!!! I was absolutely fuming. I know that not all gay guys want to settle down and get married, I know that in fact a lot of them don’t want that and I am happy to accept that but it really grinds my gears when they can’t accept the fact that I do want that. It’s like theres this divide between gays that want boyfriends and gays that want casual sex. Neither side can accept that what the other side wants is what they actually want. Many a time I have seen a settle down gay try to trap a casual sex gay into a relationship and many a time I have seen a casual sex gay trick a settle down gay into bed with the false promiss of a relationship. We are all different and all want different things from life and that is ok, but how are we ever meant to expect acceptance and respect from the wider community when we don’t even accept and respect each other for our own differences?