Coming out is a difficult process. A massive part of it is conquering the fear that your friends and family won’t accept you for who you are. Generally, or at least in my case, I found that once I overcame that fear I was free to be me. It’s a very freeing experience. All of a sudden all of societies expectations of who you should be no longer apply. You can do whatever and be whoever you are.
One of the hardest things I found was that society generally has 2 distinct gender roles. Masculine and Feminine. Boys like blue, girls like pink. Boys like trucks and dirt, girls like barbies and ponies. This carries on into adulthood, men drink beer, women drink wine and so on and so on.
But what happens when you are no longer restricted by the likes and dislikes that society imposes on you based on your gender? You are free to blur the lines between these two however you may please. I know blurring gender lines isn’t exclusive to gay and lesbian people but I would definitely say that there is a higher rate of it. I know in my case when I did come out I explored the many options that where available to me because I no longer felt like “I can’t do that because I’m a boy”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a man and love being a man but I no longer felt societies persuasion in what it meant for me to be a man.
I like having a beard or at least stubble at all times. I like spray on tans. I like hard physical labour. I like art and being creative. I like wearing my dirty old ripped up jeans. I like wearing pink shirts. I like camping. I also like dancing. I’m my very own unique mix.
What your definition of being a man? Does it have anything to do with societies expectations or do you have your own definition?