3 Day Challenge

I recently took part in Davey Wavey’s 3 Day no Grindr challenge. For those of you who don’t know who Davey Wavey is make sure you check him out here. Hes basically the Michael Jordan of gay blogging…. If Michael Jordan was a shirtless gay man….. You know what I mean.

Anyway in the video Davey and his friend challenge gay men to not use grindr for 3 whole days. It sounds ridiculous that you couldn’t go 3 days without using a gay dating app but it was actually difficult. The app is extremely addictive and comes in handy quite often. Spot a hottie on the bus? Just pull out grindr and see if that hottie is on the list of gay gauys in your proximity. Feeling a bit down? Jump on grindr and within minutes have messages from guys telling you how hot you are and all the things they want to do to you (even though sometimes you end up wishing they didn’t…. its still a boost to the old ego).

About a day after watching the video my grindr subscription ran out and I decided it was as good excuse as any to take on the challenge. I ended up passing the 3 days and going without it for a bit over a week. I just subscribed again last night. It was a good experience overall. I found because I wasnt wasting my time chatting to guys I had more spare time and got more done. It made me realise that I didn’t need some random guy to tell me I was hot to keep my self esteem up. Best of all it gave me time to think about what I was doing on there in the first place. It’s easy, with the sea of guys on there, get caught up in all the compliments and lost in all the offers for hook ups. Having time away from it gave me time to reprioritise what I wanted out of grindr so now when I do use it I can focus on looking for what I want and spend less time getting caught up in all the shit.

If your a single gay man I would definately suggest this challenge. If your not a grindr fan or not even a gay man, still make sure you check out Davey Waveys blog. There is plenty of stuff there for everyone, not just the homos!

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Hunger Games

I promiss one day I will stop writing blogs about feeling fat but today is not that day so here goes. So far through a combination of blogging about it and me overthinking the hell out of this topic I have established a few things.

  • Exercise makes me happy. When I exercise I am better able to handle stress and generally happier as a person
  • Eating shit makes me feel shit. When my diet is bad I feel lathargic and depressed
  • Eating good makes me feel good. When my diet improves, my attitude and mood improve too.
  • Being my current weight makes me unhappy and takes a lot of effort to undo all the unhappiness that the weight issues create

These aren’t things that sometimes happen or maybe happen. These are things that happen every time without fail. These are things that I know for sure. So knowing these things, one would think that the solution to these problems is easy. WRONG!

Let me run you through a typical morning, actually let me run you through my morning this morning! I lie in bed and the alarm goes off. “If I have a short shower I can sleep in 10 more mins” Hits snooze button “If I dont shave a I can snooze 10 more mins” Hits snooze button “If I dont iron my shirt I can snooze 10 more mins” Hits snooze button “If I skip breakfast I can snooze 10 more mins” Hits snooze button

I quickly launch out of bed and race around getting everything ready. I then run down the street like a crazy woman to get to the bus stop in time. (Hey at least im getting a solid 2 minutes of cardio in) I jump on the bus and my stomach starts grumbling. As I approach the train station I start the battle.

“I’ll get something from the train station cafe”

“No! They dont have anything healthy there”

“Alright, I will wait til I get to work…. wait theres no food at work, If I dont eat now I’m not going to eat til lunchtime”

“There is seriously no healthy food at that place, If you eat some bad food from there you are going to feel like shit! You know this!”

“But I’m so hungry!”

“You will regret it!!!”

“Fuck it! I dont care, I’m hungry and I don’t care if I am fat. It doesn’t even matter that much”

“You will regret it”

“I will start a diet tomorrow alright! That means I can eat whatever now.”

“Could I please get an Ice Coffee and a Muffin”

*Drinks Ice Coffee and eats muffin*

“I feel like shit”

“I fucking told you!!!!”

This little internal battle happens for me before every single meal. Im not a stupid person. I know what’s going to make me feel good and what’s going to make me feel bad so I can’t for the life of me figure out why I make a stupid choice every single time!

Does anyone else go through this? Or am I just absolutely crazy?

Celery and Hamburgers

Dear Ty,

My best friend just told me he was gay. I have a crush on him and love him so much. I am trying to understand, whats the difference between putting it in a boys butt hole and my vagina? Wouldn’t it be the same? Why cant he just do the things he wants to do to boys to me?

Wendy

Hi Wendy,

Sounds like you have got yourself into a pretty complicated situation but dont worry, many a girl before you has had a crush on a gay man and I can assure you, you wont be the last to do so. I have been asked this question hundreds of times, “Why cant you just stick it in a girls hole? Is’nt it basically the same thing?”. The best way I can describe it is like this. Sex with a girl is like celery, and sex with a boy is like a hamburger. I can eat celery, It will do its job and fill me with nourishment but thats about it. It wont taste good, I wont enjoy it, It wont satisfy my cravings. On the other had I can eat a hamburger and completely enjoy it. The taste the smell, everything about it will leave me completely satisfied. If your friend only likes hamburgers theres not much point in forcing him to eat celery, hes not going to enjoy it and you deserve someone who loves eating celery!

-Ty

 

Remember you can ask me anything any time by emailing me at ty@ty-curious.com

Bad Head

Dear Ty,

My boyfriend is TERRIBLE at giving head. How do I break it to him without hurting his feelings?

-David

Dear David,

I don’t think you can tell him without making him feel bad. He could get shy about it or even worse, stop doing it all together! My suggestion is to mix things up a bit. When you give him head try different things and then get him to try them on you. At very least this will break up his boring old playlist and give him a whole new beat to dance to! What tips do you have? Let me know in the comments section

Remember you can ask me anything by emailing ty@ty-curious.com

Dating Farts

Dear Ty,

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now. He is my first boyfriend so this is all new to me. Last night I was lying in bed with him and my stomach was in so much pain. I needed to fart bad! I could feel my stomach turning, It felt like somebody was doing back flips in there. Is it too soon to fart in front of my boyfriend? How long should I wait?

– Gassy Gay Guy

Hi GGG,

This question is an easy one, the answer is simple. You should never fart in front of your boyfriend! That shit is just nasty. For us gay guys that is your sex hole and I dont know about the rest of you but I wouldnt be super keen to put my dick in there after I have smelt some rotten ass gas come out of it. I just don’t agree with these people who just bare all in front of their partners. I’m a bit old fashioned and I believe there are times you should keep some mystery alive and this is definately one of those times. If you absolutely need to, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom or outside for a ciggarette or to put the garbage out. Any excuse will do. What do you all think? Is farting in front of your partner disgusting or do you think its perfectly normal?

 

Remember, you can ask me anything any time by emailing me at ty@ty-curious.com

Tagged

I was recently Tagged in a game called Tag Your It by one of my all time favourite bloggers TRJensen. There were a bunch of rules and stuff but hey I have never been one to follow rules so I figure why start now? In the game the person who tags you ask a bunch of questions. So here are my answers to TRJensens questions.

If the person you were dating asked you how many partners you have had would you answer the question? I would avoid the answer for as long as possible.

Penises are… fun to play with

Vaginas are… a complete mystery to me

What is the weirdest request you have ever gotten from a person you were dating? One guy I was dating once asked me to fist him……

List three qualities a person of the opposite sex have to possess for you to consider a relationship? A penis, biceps and pecs…….. dont think im ever going to find someone of the opposite sex with those!

What are your three biggest turn-offs? Farting! People with no motivation or drive and people who are far too serious.

What is the single sexiest physical attribute someone can possess? Confidence

If you could only choose one… Great Sex or Great Oral Sex? Great Sex

What is the worst pick up line you have ever heard? Is your father a theif? Because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes

Have you ever gone home with someone you just met? Yes

How do you feel about cat calls? Great ego booster

Top or bottom? (Chose one) I absolutely could not choose one!

There you go, all the questions answered! Remember you can ask me anything any time at ty@ty-curious.com

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Settle Down

I just read an awesome blog by my friend The Narcissist about settling. It got my mind racing. Settling is something that is often on my mind.

In the past 7 years as an openly gay man I have had my fair share of relationships. Sure some of them were complete dicks but some of them were nice, normal, good guys. They were good enough. I could have married them (if it was legal) and lived a nice, normal good life. Every time I reached the point where I realised we were heading down the road to living a nice normal average life together, I would get a sinking feeling in my stomach. I would literally start to feel sick. It’s like I’m allergic to mediocrity. This is the point where I usually start to sabotage the relationship.

My ex partner of 2 years turned to me in the end and said “You can have all this, we can live this life together, we can both work our normal jobs and come home to our normal house and our normal life but I know you, and I know that this is not going to make you happy. You are going to want more than this, You will miss all the dreams you gave up to have this”. At the time I hated him for saying it. I was ready to give up on all my dreams and settle. Lucky enough for me he wasn’t going to let me do that. A year later I had the Cowboy saying something very similar at the end of our relationship. He said “If I stay with you I am just going to be standing in the way of your dreams and I dont want to be a dream stealer”.

I often wonder though, Am I deluding myself? Are the big dreams just dreams and are they standing in the way of letting me live something that is nice and normal and happy and average. Am I destined for something great and I cant let a relationship get in my way? Or is that just a lie I tell myself so I can sleep at night?